Mom’s Don’ts and Do’s

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By Davalynn Spencer @davalynnspencer

My mother taught me most of what I know, but four important lessons stand out in my memory—two don’ts and two do’s:

Don’t …

  1. … push your hair behind your ears—it makes them stick out.
  2. … put your hands in your sweater pockets—it makes them sag.

Do …

  1. … moisturize your neck as well as your face.
  2. … love Jesus more than anyone, even me.

Mother’s advice scored much higher than that of other wisdom merchants in my life: three out of four for accuracy isn’t bad.

Number one was probably something she heard from her mother. The women in our family all have very thick hair, but today we all know that hair isn’t what pushes ears in or out.

Number two is factual, proven by the old, comfortable sweater I wear around the house but never in public.

Number three is a bit of prophetic perception that is better followed than ignored. For as any woman over the age of thirty has discovered, there is no undoing of neglect.

And number four is the most precious of all gems Mother could have given me. It is the North Star of her guidance, the essence of what I hope I have instilled in my own children.

Over the years my mother’s words have comforted me—as have God’s. The Lord and I first met through her tender nurturing, and for that introduction, I will be forever grateful. For as she taught me to love Him more than anyone else, so I have learned that He loves me more than anyone else ever could.

Can a mother forget the baby at her breast

and have no compassion on the child she has borne?

Though she may forget,

I will not forget you!

See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands.

Isaiah 49:15,16


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2 thoughts on “Mom’s Don’ts and Do’s

  1. This is rather poignant, because my sister has willingly chosen to walk away and forget our mother, but my mom cannot forget her own child. Which makes the pain even worse.
    And yet, God knows Mom’s pain, the pain of rejection.
    Yes, my brother and I do our best to make sure our mom knows that she did a great job, no matter what anyone says.

    Thank you for this.
    And yes, your mom did a great job raising you, and I can only imagine how awesome your kids are.

  2. davalynn

    Poignant indeed. We too often beat ourselves up over our parenting skills or lack thereof. However, God was the perfect parent and His kids weren’t perfect because He gave them free will. Takes great love to do that. Incomprehensible love.

    Thanks for reading.


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