Perfect plus Perfect does not equal Happy

By Davalynn Spencer @davalynnspencer

February is the love month and romance is in the air – especially if you watch the Hallmark channel, and I do. Frequently. I enjoy happy endings.

That is a big part of why I write romance, both historical and contemporary. Happy endings are always a good thing, right? A happy ending is what qualifies romance as romance and not simply a love story like Romeo and Juliet and, well, Love Story.


Today, many people think they have the happy-ending equation figured out, and they spend their lives (and several broken relationships) trying to make their equation work:

Perfect + Perfect = Happy

This is so not accurate.

In a good romance, the hero and heroine are flawed because real people are flawed. They love each other in spite of their flaws.

As a romance author, I had a re-revelation the other day. God does that for me a lot – tells me again something He’s already told me. (I’m so glad.)

From a woman’s perspective, here’s what I got:

There is not a man anywhere who is not flawed. Husband, boyfriend, son, father, brother—every single one of them is wounded.

Men, just reverse the gender and you’ll get the same message about us gals.

People waste a lot of time and heartbreak looking for Mr./Ms. Perfect.

There is only one Perfect Person, and He walked out of unapproachable light with His arms opened wide, headed straight for us. Jesus loves us beyond what we can imagine.

So here’s my Valentine’s Day advice: If you are looking for a perfect someone, or already have a someone who is anything but perfect, focus on Jesus. He will help you find the flawed person who is perfect for you and your flaws, and help you love the flawed one already in your life.

Remember, that’s what makes a good romance.

God remains the strength of my heart; he is mine forever.

Psalm 73:26

Coming March 1 – “The Wrangler’s Woman” – the story of two imperfect people who discover they are a perfect match. Preorder today!

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